Just a simple request.

B has just a simple, little request. Really, she feels its not asking that much and its something the whole family can enjoy. She would like another sibling. Simple.

For about six months B has been asking for a baby sister. When she was told that gender was not something that could be guaranteed, she seemed to hold faith that if she wanted it bad enough it would happen. And if not we could always try again and surely we would get it right the next time.

We mentioned the possibility of adopting when she and C are a bit older. And she was fine with this plan, she even graciously told us that she would accept a brother in that situation because if he needed a family we could and should be his family.

But it didn't take long before she was back to wanting a baby in the more immediate future. She suggested having twins, then one could be a boy (but one had to be a girl).

Finally, T asked her how this would work in practical terms. "What if you are crying, and I hold you. And Cavan is crying, and Dada holds him. Then the new baby starts to cry. Who will hold her?" B was about to say that she would hold the new baby, but then saw the dilemma. After some consideration she said "what if we wait until I'm bigger. Then I could hold the new baby."

C does not want a new baby. And he's pretty clear about that.